MoniKitchen
Chorizo Carbonara
Ummm, I googled this recipe - but now can't find it. Soo, if you're interested I suggest you just google it? meh.
Humor
Just in general, we had a good time goofing around at Billy's wedding with Josh & Tina, etc.
Good Talk
Ok, so who knows why this got to me SO much. But at Billy & Jenn's rehearsal dinner - Billy gave a little speech and read a poem to Jenn and then they exchanged gifts. She got him so famous collectible guitar and he got her big 'ol diamond earrings.
So this made me think about how Tim & I didn't give each other gifts, b/c it would be another expense at come time for our wedding, we were pretty much maxed out. And at the time it seemed like a logical thought, but now it just bummed me out and was another reminder of how strapped we are and how so many other people are so much better off.
On my car ride home, and Tim went to stay with Billy & Guido, he called me and I spoke to the above points. But it was that type of conversation where I didn't want to have a conversation, I wanted to vent. So not much was resolved that night. The next morning Tim called me, and we did talk more about it. And of course nothing was resolved, but it helped to sorta get it out there.
Marriage Epiphany
Things are going to happen in a marriage that you can't control. You can't control another person, much less everything that happens to them. You also can't completely control your luck and the way the chips fall.
A marriage needs to be viewed as an us vs. the world rather than a me vs. him. I spent the entire summer in the latter category and unless you're planning on a divorce, it's no way to live in a marriage. So I swallowed that pill and tried to see the sunny side of certain things. Saw that Tim & I are still best friends and always will be and we'll always be able to make each other laugh and have "obsessions". It's "the world" that gets in the way, and really knocks you down. And that's what happened in the past few months. It may happen again. The world is bound to knock us down again. Hopefully someday we'll get a little break and the world will lift us up and things will fall into place. Until then, it's a battle. But it's a battle much easier fought together, than against each other.
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Monday, November 10, 2008
WEEK #50: October 26 - November 1, 2008
Home Cookin'
Booooo. I suck.
Social Butterflies
We both had colds so that prevented us from venturing out much. Oh - but Tim met up with Billy after work on Thursday night - so that counts!
Aww...That's Nice!
Details can't really be disclosed to the public here, but let's just say Tim & I are turning over a new leaf in our marriage and are looking forward to "coming out of the dark" in time for our one-year anniversary. We've had some good talks and that general good, warm & fuzzy feeling is taking over where the bitterness once stood.
20-Second T.O.
Tim called on his way home from being out w/Billy. It was only 9:30pm so obviously not too much craziness had occurred. I still I had to ask how many drinks he had - not trying to be accusatory, but of course I come off sounding that way. Long story short, he only had 3 drinks, but b/c he thought I was accusing he came off defensive which turned into me going off about why I had the right to be concerned.
Booooo. I suck.
Social Butterflies
We both had colds so that prevented us from venturing out much. Oh - but Tim met up with Billy after work on Thursday night - so that counts!
Aww...That's Nice!
Details can't really be disclosed to the public here, but let's just say Tim & I are turning over a new leaf in our marriage and are looking forward to "coming out of the dark" in time for our one-year anniversary. We've had some good talks and that general good, warm & fuzzy feeling is taking over where the bitterness once stood.
20-Second T.O.
Tim called on his way home from being out w/Billy. It was only 9:30pm so obviously not too much craziness had occurred. I still I had to ask how many drinks he had - not trying to be accusatory, but of course I come off sounding that way. Long story short, he only had 3 drinks, but b/c he thought I was accusing he came off defensive which turned into me going off about why I had the right to be concerned.
WEEK #49: October 19 - 25, 2008
Home Cookin'
Chili on Sunday that lasted us 'til Thursday!
Social Butterflies
On Friday night we babysat for Isabella, Nicolas and Bianca. Not sure if that's "social" but hey, there was some adult time in there too visiting with Pat & Lorie and Connie!!
Aww...That's Nice!
We took turns being very cozy with Bianca in our efforts to get her to fall asleep. Which we eventually did. Yay!
Chili on Sunday that lasted us 'til Thursday!
Social Butterflies
On Friday night we babysat for Isabella, Nicolas and Bianca. Not sure if that's "social" but hey, there was some adult time in there too visiting with Pat & Lorie and Connie!!
Aww...That's Nice!
We took turns being very cozy with Bianca in our efforts to get her to fall asleep. Which we eventually did. Yay!
MONTH #10: August 18 - September 17, 2008
MoniKitchen
Lemon Pepper Chicken
1 lb. boneless, skinless chicken breast, cut into strips
1 medium onion, chopped
1 large carrot, sliced
1 garlic clove, minced
1 T margarine
1 T cornstarch
1 14.5oz. can chicken broth
3 T lemon juice
1 C chopped broccoli
1/4 C minced fresh parsley
1/2 tsp salt
1 1/2 C uncooked instant rice
lemon pepper to taste
-Cook chicken, onion, carrot and garlic in margarine until chicken is light brown, about 5 minutes.
-In a bowl, combine cornstarch and broth. Stir in lemon juice, salt and rice.
-Add cornstarch mixture to skillet and bring to a boil.
-Reduce heat, add broccoli and parsley
-Cover and simmer 5-10min or until rice is tender.
-Season with lemon pepper to taste.
Serves 6
One Serving Contains:
261 calories
5g fat
70mg cholesterol
568mg sodium
Will You Go Out With Me?
Cubs game on Labor Day. We took the Metra in to the Loop and hopped on the Red Line. We got the biggest pizza-by-the-slice ever and headed into the game! It was a blah game, but a nice day. Then we walked around for a bit, hopped back on the Red Line to the Loop. We had 45min to kill before the next train so we grabbed a sandwich to eat at Giordano's!
That's Hilaaarious
Human Giant absolutely took the cake and summed up most of our laughter from this 10th month.
Good Talk
Chelsea's wedding was bittersweet as far as our marriage is concerned. It was great watching & being a part of one of my best friend's weddings only 9 months after our own. Remembering what that day felt like for me, but also reminded me of a happier time. Happiness I hadn't been feeling for most of the summer. But instead of feeling jealous and angry over this, I felt sad and the week after the wedding I was able to express my sadness in perhaps a bit more constructive way. Sure, it was nothing I hadn't said in some way before - but I think I get through to Tim when I speak calmly vs. upset.
The Good Life
Tim got a job as a Market Reporter at the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. So no more sales, and it's in the financial field which was his "dream." It's a huge global company with plenty of room for advancement. The only catch is it is very low pay. It'll be a year until he's making a decent salary, so more rough times ahead. But at least there's hope.
Marriage Epiphany
It has gotten to the point that I'm just doing this to myself. The past is so far in the past now, neither of us can do anything to change it. I've beat us both over the head about my resentment and Tim's response has been consistent and all he can do. Say he's sorry and that he understands. That the future will be different and better. It's time for me to accept that as much as Tim has accepted responsibility for his mistakes. The marriage is in my hands, if I keep beating it, I'll kill it - if I can accept it & nurture it, then it can go back to being in both of our hands.
Lemon Pepper Chicken
1 lb. boneless, skinless chicken breast, cut into strips
1 medium onion, chopped
1 large carrot, sliced
1 garlic clove, minced
1 T margarine
1 T cornstarch
1 14.5oz. can chicken broth
3 T lemon juice
1 C chopped broccoli
1/4 C minced fresh parsley
1/2 tsp salt
1 1/2 C uncooked instant rice
lemon pepper to taste
-Cook chicken, onion, carrot and garlic in margarine until chicken is light brown, about 5 minutes.
-In a bowl, combine cornstarch and broth. Stir in lemon juice, salt and rice.
-Add cornstarch mixture to skillet and bring to a boil.
-Reduce heat, add broccoli and parsley
-Cover and simmer 5-10min or until rice is tender.
-Season with lemon pepper to taste.
Serves 6
One Serving Contains:
261 calories
5g fat
70mg cholesterol
568mg sodium
Will You Go Out With Me?
Cubs game on Labor Day. We took the Metra in to the Loop and hopped on the Red Line. We got the biggest pizza-by-the-slice ever and headed into the game! It was a blah game, but a nice day. Then we walked around for a bit, hopped back on the Red Line to the Loop. We had 45min to kill before the next train so we grabbed a sandwich to eat at Giordano's!
That's Hilaaarious
Human Giant absolutely took the cake and summed up most of our laughter from this 10th month.
Good Talk
Chelsea's wedding was bittersweet as far as our marriage is concerned. It was great watching & being a part of one of my best friend's weddings only 9 months after our own. Remembering what that day felt like for me, but also reminded me of a happier time. Happiness I hadn't been feeling for most of the summer. But instead of feeling jealous and angry over this, I felt sad and the week after the wedding I was able to express my sadness in perhaps a bit more constructive way. Sure, it was nothing I hadn't said in some way before - but I think I get through to Tim when I speak calmly vs. upset.
The Good Life
Tim got a job as a Market Reporter at the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. So no more sales, and it's in the financial field which was his "dream." It's a huge global company with plenty of room for advancement. The only catch is it is very low pay. It'll be a year until he's making a decent salary, so more rough times ahead. But at least there's hope.
Marriage Epiphany
It has gotten to the point that I'm just doing this to myself. The past is so far in the past now, neither of us can do anything to change it. I've beat us both over the head about my resentment and Tim's response has been consistent and all he can do. Say he's sorry and that he understands. That the future will be different and better. It's time for me to accept that as much as Tim has accepted responsibility for his mistakes. The marriage is in my hands, if I keep beating it, I'll kill it - if I can accept it & nurture it, then it can go back to being in both of our hands.
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