Monday, April 28, 2008

Continued...MONTH #5: March 18, 2008 - April 17, 2008

Marriage Epiphany
This will probably end up sounding more like a personal or friendship (Katie) epiphany than a marriage one. But it's what's been on my mind lately - so I'm giving it a go!
The 'grass is greener' phenomenom...We've all heard of it and undoubtedly we've all experienced it from time to time.
Well, I've got it going on strong these days. My newly single friend, Katie, has had a very successful first few weeks as a single gal. She is confident that her break-up was a good decision and for the best. She's even found herself dating a new guy that is CRAZY about her!
This got me thinking of a few things...How she is stronger than I ever was when Tim & my relationship would get rough and I would consider ending it, but never could partly for the fear of being alone and having to start over after all the work I/we had put into it. Now, in reality, it was more the faith I had in us getting through pretty much anything together that would keep us together.
All's well that ends well, and I keep telling myself that as my mind has been drifting in the "what would have been" thinking. Sometimes I just can't help but think that I rolled over and took the beating for some of the hard times Tim & I had. (Metaphorical beating of course!) I do realize that is not the case, since I certainly always spoke my mind and didn't make anything easier on Tim.
But I don't feel that Tim ever suffered as much as I did. I am a power hungry and equality driven person so that is a tough pill for me to swallow.
The grass seems greener in Katie's yard because she's got this new guy who is crazy about her. Of course, she sees my "green grass" in that I have a man who loves me and will be spending his life with me, but let's face it - after nearly five years together, Tim is not at all *crazy* for me!
So I can't help but envy Katie in that I wonder if there'd be a guy out there who'd be crazy for me. Or wonder why Tim never WAS *crazy* for me. It took him a long time to have strong feelings for me...
Now of course, let's flip the table. I know Katie is at times envious that I am married and settled down making life plans. I'm sure if I were single right now, all I'd be thinking of is wanting to be in a serious relationship and settle down.
I guess you could say I'm experiencing the post-wedding jitters - not in the matter of marrying Tim, but just in *being* married. I've been having such strong flashbacks to high school, college, drum corps and the beginning months of Tim & my relationship.
What this has all made me think about is that while I may sometimes want what I am past being able to have anymore, I will always stand by my decision to be where I am today - married to Tim. I wanted it for a long time before it happened, and even way back 5 years ago I was "done" with the single life and looking forward to a real relationship, and it just so happened!
Just as I'm sure once we have children - we'll be sick with envy of our childless friends, even though *now I am envious of our friends/family with children!

Saturday, April 26, 2008

MONTH #5: March 18, 2008 - April 17, 2008

MoniKitchen
Pat's Favorite Sweet & Sour Meatloaf - from Lorie
Ingredients:
-1lb ground turkey
-1 egg
-1/2 C bread crumbs
-2 tblsp parsley
-1 teasp basil
-1/2 teasp oregano
-pinch salt & pepper
-1 C Sweet Baby Ray's BBQ Sauce
-3/4 C grape jelly

Directions:
-In a saucepan, heat the jelly and bbq sauce on low until bubbling
-Meanwhile, in a bowl, mix together all other ingredients (use hands to mix)
-Pour about 1/4 of the jelly/bbq mixture into the meat (again, mix with hands)
-Form meat into a meatloaf pan and pour remaining sauce over the meatloaf
-Bake at 350 for 35-40 minutes, uncovered

*Makes four generous servings. Very good as a leftover!!

Will You Go Out With Me?
We went to see the movie Juno! We ate some random leftovers at home and then went to Jersey's http://www.jerseyspizzaandgrill.com/ for a drink and potato skins, to keep it a cheaper night. Then off to the movie!

That's Hilaaarious
SAUSAGE still kept us laughing as well as my new found obsession with the APPLEBOTTOM jeans song ;)

Good Talk
We are being very open and talking about unfortunate job situations. What needs to happen before we can sell our condo and buy a townhouse/house, what type of place we're looking for and what our "dream jobs" are, and lastly if Milwaukee is an option for us and how that could work. No decisions yet, but I think when it comes time to make decisions, we'll be ready.

The Good Life
Hmm...This is a let down! Nothing "good" has happened to us this month! We did get a new niece - Bianca Elle Simon and a new cousin on Tim's side - Robert Clemente (yes, that's the 3rd 'Bob' in our family - my uncle, Tim's 1/2 brother and now his cousin) Sheesh!

Recap
While Tim was always a little 'eh' about his job, he got slapped with a big change a couple weeks ago. The way he'd be making sales changed and while they 'say' the bonuses will be better and quicker in this new set-up, as of June 1 Tim's salary is being slashed by $10K. He's also not very confident in the success of this company as a whole, as it is relatively new and the management doesn't really seem to have a grasp on what they are doing.
For me, I should consider myself lucky that I wasn't laid off when the Qwest Retail business was lost. But now I've been moved over to Direct Mail for AT&T. The pay is good and so is the commute. But the job I signed up for - Retail Events & Promotions - I was very excited as it was what I had decided I wanted to do with my career (event promotions, management). But now I'm doing DM which isn't going to help launch me into the event world as I planned my initial job would after a few years. So now this is just another "filler" job I must endure before I can get into what I really want. And that is making it harder also because it's been nearly 3yrs of work that I don't necessarily want to be slotted in or continue in in anyway (yellow pages & DM) so I'm afraid I'm getting more and more pigeon-holed and it will be harder for me to break out.
Our predicaments sparked several more serious conversations about moving to Milwaukee. So again, many stars would need to align to make the move possible. With these current let-downs, Milwaukee holds the promise of a "fresh start"...but we realize it may not be all that easy!

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

WEEK #22: April 13 - 19, 2008

Home Cookin'
I didn't cook for us, but rather prepared Lorie's meatloaf again on Wednesday night to bring with me on Thursday night when I went over to Pat & Lorie's while he was on a business trip to help Lorie out with the kids as she is still recovering from her C-Section!

Social Butterflies
Thursday (Monica)
I went over to Pat & Lorie's after work as mentioned above to help Lorie with the kids. I made the meatloaf, did a little cleaning for her and of course ran around the house with Nicolas & Isabella. We played hide-n-seek for a little while and they did their trademark running around in circles and Isabella instructing me to "try and get her and then give her a hug"
Weekend
I headed to Peoria after work on Friday to visit Lisa and Liz came too! Here's the highlights:
-Old Chicago for pomojito's, Italian Nachos and Pepperoni Rolls. I attempted the "Eat 6 Saltines in One Minute" dare...I got 5 in my mouth, but ended with a pingpong ball sized wad in my mouth I couldn't swallow when the minute was up!
-Lisa read us a "bed time story" which was really just several of her journal entries from the years we marched in drum corps
-making the fattiest breakfast ever with lots of coffee and just chatting with the girls
-tooling around random knick knack stores in Peoria
-having ginormous wings at random bar outside of Peoria
-going to the tiniest bar ever which was orginally some sort of WWII building?
-playing beer pong, but drinking wine instead, in lisa's basement
-playing on Lisa's baritone and trumpet like dorky band nerds
-watching the 2001 & 2002 videos I recorded while marching to catch all our antics. The best memories EVER!
-sunday morning going to the shooting range - holding and shooting a real rifle for the first time in my life! I got 8 clay discs out of 25! not bad!

MEANWHILE...
Tim had Ellen, Billy & Anthony over on Friday night to play Guitar Hero and watch 'Superbad'. Billy slept over, they went to Old Bridge the next morning then hit the road to Milwaukee where they played darts, "VAG", and video games with Josh til all hours of the night!

Humor
The "Brown Chicken Brown Cow" joke from work that I got a kick out of. Ask me to tell it in person!!!
Oh, and see my myspace page www.myspace.com/mellomonic for Tim's "Applebottom" comment. HILARIO!

Aww...That's Nice!
Before falling asleep on Tuesday night, we got real curly b/c we had the window open and it was getting cold! We had our "legs in each other's butts" like we always used to. It's never cold enough in our room to be ultra curly anymore :(

20-Second T.O.
We were in bed Thursday night just watching TV and Tim was doing something with his contacts since he had just gone to the eye Dr. So I asked about his "eye issues" b/c a few yrs ago he had calcium deposits that caused him issues and he had to use drops, etc. But he was all "what eye issue" like I was talking crazy or something. And I know my memory - and it's good!!! So I got annoyed b/c I KNEW what I was talking about, etc. but then he got annoyed b/c he didn't mean it to sound like he thought I was crazy, etc. But many times I take it that way so it's just a constant miscommunication issue!

Friday, April 18, 2008

WEEK #21: April 6 - 12, 2008

Home Cookin'
Lorie's Sweet & Sour Meatloaf
I made this on curly day! I've never made meatloaf before - it's fun! And this is verrrry delicious and makes 2 dinners for us! It is of course from our Family Recipe Scrapbook! Stay tuned for this recipe posting in the monthly blog!

Social Butterflies
Sunday
Katie was still here on Sunday too! We made very veggie omelets, potato pancakes and sausages! Then we went to an Open House in Streamwood and then off to my band concert!
Afterwards, we went to BW3's in Elmhurst to meet Billy, Jenn, Guido and Colin (their bandmate)
Saturday
We met up with Garry/Jacqui & Anthony in Addison at Dave & Buster's. It was one of their friend's 30th Birthday celebrations so we just tagged along! They had a back pool table area rented out which was very nice as it was crowwwded! And apparantely before we got there, the reserved area next to it had some Chicago Bears there! Including Devin Hester?!?! WHA?

Humor
We put all out TiVo'd SNL's on a DVD so it was like a trip down Humor Lane with the different skits that were obsessions at one time or another!

Aww...That's Nice!
We took a Curly Day on Friday! Nothing special, just did a bunch of laundry and watched TiVo stuff! It's fun that we still enjoy each other's company and can entertain each other in our little condo all day!

20-Second T.O.
YIPPIE!
Imagine that...there was no alcohol involved...therefore no fights! Sheesh...

WEEK #20: March 30 - April 5, 2008

Home Cookin'
Dominick's Fish Fillets - Pacific Cod & Tilapia w/Uncle Ben's 90-second rice & corn
This was for Katie's visit! While this is not hard to make - it's actually very quick and easy - but it does serve like a real meal :)

Social Butterflies
Friday Night
Katie visited! We had the aforementioned dinner then played some Guitar Hero and hung out. I randomly got drunk off of a bottle of wine and an overly strong Mai Tai I drunkenly made :( so the details are a little blurry!
Saturday
We stopped at Starbucks for COFFEE TALK which was really just me slumped over on the chair trying not to vom and taking 2 trips to the bathroom while Katie was on the phone with Firestone trying to get her car fixed!

Humor
In my drunken state on Friday night, I read an email binder I had put together for Tim a few years ago. It was a collection of Tim's email sentences where he said "and stuff" at the end. It's a HOOT!

Aww...That's Nice!
Katie gets included in this too! We waited in the hospital for 5 hours awaiting baby Bianca Elle Simon's arrival! Tim AND Katie were so sweet and patient :) Tim was very buddy-buddy as usual with Nicolas!

20-Second T.O.
Katie was witness to this one! WOW Katie, you're all over this blog!
I drank too much wine on Friday as mentioned, and in the process I got really hyper and overly ADD and chatty. So it made the usual annoyance of me interrupting Tim in conversations (seriously, i don't mean to but my mind races all fast and I'm constantly thinking of more things to say or being distracted that I just can't control it sometimes!)
So Tim was extremely annoyed and left the room! So then *I* was annoyed that he had to take it to that level with Katie there and we ended up whisper-fighting in the hallway while Katie sat in the living room trying NOT to overhear ;)

WEEK #19: March 23 - 29, 2008 continued...

Awww...That's Nice!
On our way into the city on Saturday, we had a very extensive conversation about Katie & John's now-defunct relationship. (which was great b/c we barely realized we were stuck in traffice barely moving for nearly 20 minutes!)
It's so nice that Tim cares this much about my friends, and that my friends are his friends. And that he's a guy who is ok to discuss relationships and is able to take the "girls" side since a lot of Katie & John's major issues were commitment/marriage, etc. So I think there's a lot of guys when the topic of marriage is brought up might roll their eyes and think of the girl as just greedy for a diamond!
So it made me happy that Tim was cool in this conversation b/c we too butted heads several times in the months leading up to OUR engagement where I would always worry Tim was thinking I was just one of "those girls" who just wants a big rock and a fancy wedding, instead of the true meaning BEHIND the big rock and fancy wedding :)

20-Second T.O.
Alright. We've got a trend going on. The drive back from Ellen's is just far too long and boring and we are too tired b/c I think EVERY time we've gotten into some sort of argument!
This time we were discussing the night and I said something about how Tim was like one drink shy of being drunk where it bothers me - but he took it as me SAYING I thought he was drunk so he got all defensive and then we just didn't talk for like 10min on the rest of the drive home. And I was so frustrated that I even slept on the futon that night! Tim didn't even know b/c he had gone straight to bed when we got home and passed out immediately. So the next morning he came in and we made up and were curly.
This needs to stop happening!!!


Thursday, April 17, 2008

Week #19: March 23 - 29, 2008

Home Cookin
SAUSAGE! and veggies! This is a very basic meal, but something neither of us have had since we were kids! Specifically we had smoked turkey sausage :)

Social Butterflies
Easter Sunday
My mom spent the night, so in the morning we got ready and went to 11am Mass. After that we went to Entourage in Schaumburg www.entourageventures.com for Easter Brunch! OMG so good, I love brunch! We all had a few mimosas and 2 full plates of food. We were sad we couldn't eat more!
After that we went to Pat & Lorie's to visit, since Lorie wasn't going ANYWHERE being uber pregnant...so we just visited with the kids. Bella's new favorite movie was Bee Movie they had just gotten that week so she kept *yelling* at me to watch it and pointing out various things!
THEN we headed into Elmwood Park to Tim's Grandparents O'Neill's house. His one aunt's family had already left and the other set were getting ready to leave, which is normally the case b/c they are usually our last stop on holidays. But then it's nice b/c we sit and visit with his grandparents!

Saturday - Szymon's baby
The following Saturday, we headed to the South Side to see Szymon (groomsman) & his wife Ewa's new baby girl Isabela! We saw her for a little bit, but most of the time was Tim & Szymon playing some video game while I read a Parenting magazine?!?! But we did get to walk around in the house he's building next door to his and can I just say....I wish Tim was a rich Polish guy working for his parents' real estate company!!!

Saturday - Brad's 30th Birthday @ Mickey's
After Szymon's we headed to Bucktown for Brad's 30th Birthday celebration at the bar, Mickey's, two doors down from his and Ellen's place! We played a lot of video game bowling and there were like 5 crock pots full of yummy stuff!